I dare you to think!

I dare you to think!.


What a crazy line!?! I mean the Sun is not small at all. But neither is your idea, your talent, or You. Have you had a feeling you are supposed to do something great in your life? That’s because you do. Is there something that you do as a hobby that you have been told you are fantastic at it? I am certain you have.  Have you ever wanted to have a business of your own, be the GO TO person in your family or at work? Even if it was a glimpse of a thought, you did. Are you writing and you are experiencing writers block ? It happens to the best of us. Well, I am here to say that you CAN DO IT. And you can do it by finding that speck that propels you.

If it wasn’t for the hottest days of the year and the brightest light that makes you wear a cap and sunglasses, you wouldn’t have known the Sun was there the whole time. The difference with other planets, such as Mars and Venus is that we need a telescope to see them, since they are only a speck in the sky at our distance, and they are only seen at night. Get this, we are a speck in the Galaxy we are in! We can practically go unoticed in our galaxy. Good thing,  you don’t have to go unnoticed or feel unnoticed in life.  


By definition a speck  is “something appearing small by comparison or by reason of distance: Example “By then the town was just a speck.”

 Why a speck?

To the naked eye a speck is something small. At times microscopic or telescopic that in the right light or lens can be scene clearer and at times make a huge difference in perception. Your speck can be in your mind, or in your hands, and what you do. Start off by getting back in the groove, re-assert yourself, your achievements and accomplishments.

The idea of getting in the groove is to practice gaining momentum. Doesn’t that sound like brainstorming? Often getting in the groove, brainstorming will help you see another unexpected speck. Seeing things from a different perspective helps a lot. Sort of, when you are looking under a bed for a shoe and you see in the right light a little glimpse of glitter or reflecting item, and you now have an interest in what it is, so you reach for it. To me, that is very much like discovering the speck. You had it all this time, you just needed to see it in a better light and you take an interest in it. Moreover, you are in a different place in your life, which is a new perpective, you may allow yourself to be more open for a difference and that’s a whole other article by itself.  🙂 

So get started now. Write things down. Like what? You may ask. Well I have a few ideas:

  1. Journal everyday. Write down your thoughts goals dreams. Your accomplishments and the stories behind them. Make a list of your accomplishments. Don’t downplay your accomplishments.
  2. READ. You relax your mind reading and generate new thoughts from reading. And you never stop learning.The books you read become a good conversational piece at the right time.
  3. Join a Club related to your self-discovery. Surprise yourself, it may be fun, you learn from others and it’s great networking.
  4. Make a bucket list. And say “yes” to new experiences. Like  hobbies, clubs you want to check out, events, marathons or walkathons and volunteer work you would like to do. Then cross them off when you do them. I promise, you will learn through these experiences.
  5. Have a Visual of your ideas and wants in life. Never loose site of your goal.  Put up a poster and make a collage of cool things you might want to have.  Have cutouts or drawings of your ideas.
  6. Do the things you don’t want to do, that you have to do.  Often in the process of completing tasks that were in the back burner, you not only feel the sense of accomplishment, but your brain is working at a different pace and you get fresh ideas.   
  7. And document it. Needless to say, if someone else has a similar idea, the fact that you have documented will be your best point of defense, and a reminder of how wonderful you really are. 🙂

Next, share your stories of success. This will inspire you over and again. Not to mention, you will be noticed, your speck is now a Sun. 

The article that drove me

What drove me to write this article today was a good article by Alexandra Levit 9 Ways To Be a Powerful Woman. This article featured some fantastic points, but what caught my interest was Catherine Kaputa the founder of SelfBrand LLC, a personal branding strategist. What a brilliant person!

Catherine, like many of us was told “Work hard and that’s how you will move up in the world. It’s not what they say about you that is important.” And that’s when she had her “Aha” moment. She recognized that it wasn’t true, it is Hard work + Selfbranding = Success. It’s important to understand that if you don’t brand yourself, someone else will and it won’t be what you wish it was. And in the business world it is the “other people” that hire you, decide promote you, decide to include you as a team so it does matter what other people think. Perceptions in the market place of you are very important.  Therefore you need to brand yourself on a positive perceptions, so you can maximize who you are.

I thought “WOW, maximize who you are!” That doesn’t mean exagerate or brag who you are. It means to represent at the highest possible estimate, to make the greatest or fullest use of who you are! Leverage your aptitude. We need to NOT be afraid of speaking of ourselves in a positive way. Differentiate yourself, so you get noticed.

Catherines 3 Principles of SelfBrand

  1. Be Different.
  2. It’s what you do to the minds of others. It’s about perceptions.
  3. Think Outside – In. The reaction in the market place and what I have to do to get that reaction.

Buck up girls and boys! Analyze, and learn who you really are and what you want to do. Discover the speck and magnify YOU.

To learn more about Catherine Kaputa and her company go to: http://www.selfbrand.com/


Open mouth insert foot.

Am in this Workshop about Career Transitions, and the guy, Mr. Instructor is mentioning how Facebook can ruin your credibility and reputation. Now we know that and when we have a job some us don’t care and get away with it. However, when you are unemployed, making a transition in life and searching for employment, you Must be careful because Google, MSN, and My space can impose a on a big decision on getting hired.

How? You may ask. Well businesses are checking you out,riiiight? And they want to be sure the person their hiring is going to represent the company not only themselves. I mean, just be safe everything is happening online now. And you have to be very thoughtful, and careful. Just like think before you talk, think before you type.

ANYway…So back to the workshop. He says “you can friend us or “like” us (the company) on facebook or whatever page” and I pipe up with my funnies totally clean mind you, me being me, trying, TRYING–to be funny. Now, I am generally a quiet person, and when around people I try to be friendly with others to help them be comfortable because I was once shy, too. So I say “Yeah, I like you here too. (ha ha ha).  I can friend you on Linked in, Friend you on facebook, My space, I can basically like you here and not like you on facebook, I can also “like” you on MyFace, and I didn’t say “MyFace.com”” And again I got a group laugh. Now if you have read my blog “Puerto Rican Movers, you may have read about the cross-eyed crab story.  And here I am again. Something that I have joked a lot with and used before, like egg on my face. You know what? I think I will just blog on my new space called “MyEggOnMyFace.com” for everyone to share their embarrasment.

ANYways… he turned red and laughed to himself. And that is when I realized what I said and the back tracking was the saddest.

Me:”I can like you on my face.”

Him: (Nothing, grin, holding his laughter. Looking down to his paper)

Me: What? OH, no! I didn’t meant it that way. NO… I said that in combination of My Space and Facebook. That was not what I meant.

Him: “With that, I think it’s a good time for a break.”

Me:  Typing “OMG! I have done th biggest “fuax pa”. And I can’t take the words back!!! ARGH!!!

Me: Daggummit I spelled it wrong!!!! I need chocolate.

Happy Wednesday Everyone!

La Frau

Anybody remember “Deep thoughts  by Jack Handy” on SNL?  I liked the show for it’s random humor. I loved it unconditionally throughout my life. Jack Handy came up with his Deep thoughts that were random and completely messed up, as if someone was writing in their diary. They just either made me smile, but mostly shocked me and made me laugh a lot. So I took a liking to Random thoughts from my mother, co-workers who have a hard time keeping conversation. Some of these co-workers just popped out saying the strangest things that ought to be internal thoughts, but they seem to noy understand why, and they say them out loud. My thought process, as I write this, is that they may have thought “hey she’s just like me”, and that’s why they tell me things. But that’s besides the point. And if they did I hope I made them feel normal AND sexy, too. 😀

ANYways, … Sometimes, I see the internet that way too. Random forums, news, comedy, education, unecesarry pictures that I can’t erase from my memory, with just a button that says “Restore to latest configuration”.  It doesn’t matter what it is, “there is an app for that too.”

So here I am being resourceful and I look up the real purpose of the references, because someone told me today that references are not important. That they are just part of the process and tha’s why HR does it, still. IF you ave your thoughts on that topic great I want to hear it. BUT, I stumbled upon another site ‘Ace the Interview’ and noticed a tab called the Top 100 Questions and Answers. So, you guessed it! I clicked, and the first question, as random as it is says…

Question: “Describe a chicken using a programming language.”

If I got  aquestion like this, I would come up with my own, but I know I could not be serious as the interviewer, nor the people that came up with this:

Answer 1: -chicken is a function which takes argument as grain type and returns egg.

egg chicken(grain x);

Answer 2:A keyboard is placed in front of the cage. Every time a key is pecked a seed will eject. Initially, code will not compile.

However, if an infinite number of chickens peck away at the keyboards for an infinite amount of time, it is theorized that eventually the random pecking will produce an algorithm to finally prove which came first….

Answer 3-::chicken is a function which takes argument as grain type and returns egg.

::egg chicken(grain x);

I beg to differ…..

Chicken is a function which takes an argument as grain type and returns chicken shyt.

Answer 4:-It’s a trick question — chickens can’t program.”

The lastest one is a fact, it’s funny, and it is a good answer, according to the book “How Would You Move Mount Fuji? “. The hiring managers agenda is simple, they just wana see what makes you tick. 🙂

Keep It Simple Sam. 

Happy 1st day of Summer Everyone!

Let go and go on…

I have been having such a good time this season. I have learned a lot and of many things that I would not have had time for, if I was working and doing what I did before.

I thought I was happy but I learned real quick that I wasn’t. I was tired, exhausted and burnt out. Now I have plenty of energy, I spend lots of time with family, my hobbies, learning at my pace and teaching others. Basically, paying it forward.

In the past month I have started a side career in the performing arts and my time is paying off in this field. I love it and am learning a lot. I am learning a lot from the big shots and when the project is “ripe” then I will give more information on it.

Looking back, this has only come together when I opened my thoughts to even more positive ones. Some really grateful thoughts. I began to catch myself in starting to feel sorry or pity and was able to change the gear into one that I had to relearn and visit more often. Just like anything else, it took time. Then things started to role in my favor. A bigger plan seems to be unrolling of bigger and better things. I didn’t believe it before. I had to see it to believe it. Now as my good friend Joel says. I believed first and then I saw it before me.

My friends, plugin to something bigger and better to your positive benefit. Time away from the negatives is essential. No one needs to tell you what they are, because YOU know what they are. Don’t ignore the white elephant in the room if there is one, or you have been approached about it more than 2 times about it.

It’s ok to be alone. Itsok if your friends that were not really that good are not with you. Sometimes we need new friends that will respect us the way we imagined we ought to be respected.

There is something better to come. It’s ok that you take time to hash things out. You will find new hobbies, or not, but you will work through them. And in no time, you too will have bigger and better times. Believe it. That is also a choice. Make it yours.

I wish you the best!

La Frau

Giving the economy we will most likely see carpool clubs showing up on billboards at work. If there is anything I have learned from car pooling, it would have to be the don’ts that were done to me with many people. Remember “Do on to others…”


  • smoke in their car
  • speak loudly or too soft
  • touch the radio station unless asked to change it to your liking
  • bring in your home mixed CD
  • pick your nose with bare hands
  • clean your ears with a q-tip and leave it in their car
  • fling dried mucus (boogers) into their car
  • eat food that spills in the car
  • eat foods the person traveling with you is allergic to
  • smoke marijuana and then get into your car-pool buddies car
  • be late
  • get in the car half-dressed
  • not take a bath or brush your teeth
  • wear your clothes straight from the laundry basket
  • blame it on the wife/husband or kids
  • ask your car-pool buddy to end their day short just for you plan ahead
  • talk sex— at all!
  • or try not to cry and spill your guts to your buddy (you’ll gty the loss of a buddy)
  • plan the drive home full of perfect moments of photography
  • not be fair on how many times you drive, take fair turns
  • Steal someones lunch and then bring it in the car and claim you “got lucky”
  • invite yourself over to their homes (just because you are sharing a ride doesn’t mean you are BFF!)
  • not wear your seatbealt
  • critisize their driving, if you don’t like itheir driving just drive yourself to work

Those are just a few for you carpoolers thinking of carpooling for the first time. Some may have to do a CORI prior. 🙂

Be kind to one another!!

It’s funny how hard we try not to be like our parents, when they only want the best for us. It is a complicated mix of love and dislike of the ambition of another human. The other human is often anyone. ie, from our parents, a family member, a friend, or another person within our social circle. It is a never ending adventure of identity and fantasy. I find if you don’t fight it you can grow to understand more than you expected of the moment and even understand and find compassion in others, as well as, for others. It’s like apple tree growing, you can let it grow and find out later if it’s sour, bitter or sweet.  Grafting is what invitro sounds like to me. So cross-pollination seems is the closest metaphor I am thinking in terms of molding the self. The hardships learned in life are the sunny days, the rainy days, rough winds, the drought seasons, and the animals that come to you for your leaves, or scratch their back, or even build a nest. They don’t mean much by it, they are just doing what natural comes to them. Naturally, we can only give what we can of ourselves. Too much- is way too much to the point that is harmfuln to both parties.

Anyway, I see my little ones growing every day, changing their minds of what they want to be when they grow up. I don’t want to control their ambitions, but I do want to influence them in a positive way. That was all I think we could use while growing up. And we never stop growing up, we just grow in age. When you hear someones, child or adult say “I would like to…”, “I want to”, I wish I could…”, don’t tell them they are too old, not smart, too late in life, or just plain can’t for your reasons; try to be the friend or family member that tells them that “they can accomplish anything they put their mind to it”.  Let them tell you their dreams, no matter how ridiculous they are. The harder it is to not laugh of their dreams, the more you ought to respect it and support them. There are plenty of human beings that have made it today after many told them they couldn’t. All it took was one person that said “Good for you!” and “You can”.


 The apple can fall close to the tree, but the seed can be taken miles away by something other.

The apple can fall farther from the tree.How?

The larger the tree grows, the farther an apple falls.

Can it fall from the tree, ofcourse.