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I started out blogging this year about truth. My truth was tested and I passed. But no one cared or noticed. I wanted a pat on the back for it and maybe a ceremony that had me cutting a ribbon with a gigantic scissor. Wow, since when did my ego get involved in my truth? Or since when did my values turn into a multiple personality issue? I can hear Madea sayin’ “was an otter-body axperance”.¬† I love Madea, but I don’t think I embody her in or outer-body experiences. ūüôā

I was happy I had some good things happen to me in 2012, but lemme tell ya how I have officially been screwed as well in the 2nd week of the year. Hello..! Someone has bullied me into letting them take my money and it was nowhere near my fault. IN this life “Los justos pagan por los pecadores.” The just pay for the sinners. And maybe this is the case. You do your best to keep your FICO score up high, and you pay a lot in cash to avoid using credit and the 1 day you write a check to someone and BAM! You are accused and terminated from DAYCARE without a sit down conversation, because someone else screwed the trust up for future people. “NO SOUP FO” YOU!” I am stunned in WTF-just-happened Land.

I am conflicted with relief I am out of a weird contract that charges and /or has you bound to a 2 month notice or be charged; And I am angered because I wasn’t very happy after my original daycare lady decided to merge with another one in the neighborhood, because funny things started to happen.

First, my little one had bruises that were not logged, and oh… no one knew where they came from.

Second, we had to pick up the children early even though the contract was for 7am – 5pm. Uh, we got 2 traffic tickets trying to get there on time and it wasn’t even 4:50 PM. We still got the stink eye for it. I felt like my daycare ladys’ “heart deposits” were losing points or going in the negative. So, I felt like I had to make it up somewhere, so I would pick up the little guy early when I thought of it. Nope! To her that doesn’t count. Like “you aren’t doing me any favors.”

Third, recently the little guy was potty trained. I was super excited because he is 3 years and 4 months old, and he was difficult on that segment of parenthood. So, when we noticed the little guy was sleeping through the night dry, and actually getting up to go potty and telling us every time he went, we sent the little one in his new and cool undies that he picked out himself. I believe it was a Tuesday, I couldn’t get up because I was up late studying and I picked him up that afternoon. I don’t know about you, but I was a bit more bothered (I was livid on the inside) than normal when the Daycare lady says “well he was brought in with out a pull up on so I put one right on his undies. Then I realized he had long johns and pants and that made 4 layers so I left him in the long johns. 4 layers is a bit much, right?” Am like “what?” You know what, if you have an issue with me bringing my potty trained child in and you are unsure if he can handle it, Please call me first. Don’t torture my kid for my mistakes.

What got me feeling that I was different was when I tried being nice and doing quick conversation, the daycare lady simply walked away saying “oh really, yeah, yeah, yeah.” What kind of dismissal was that? Hey, you don’t have to tell me twice. That had me preparing for a non-renewal with these Daycare chickies. I started looking around, the next thing I know I am in a text accused of writing a check to a closed account.I knew had an account open and in good standing, so I gave them a whole months last payment in cash, since I had given them my notice in October. But when I pick up my child, I am so worn out from the stress because no one wants to speak with me and BELIEVE me, BAM! I don’t even see it comin’.¬† I am wrongfully terminated and wrongfully charged. I am given part of my money and the returned check charged to me and an additional penalty charge was ON THERE. I felt defeated, because she was adamant “It’s your problem, not mine!” “No, It’s your bank that made the error” I said. I just didn’t want to fight anymore.

The next day I look in the envelope of cash, and the receipt of the returned check is not in there. So I ask for it and wait another day. When I receive it and read it, in plain text was the error. Instead of the my check account number 1234567, it showed the closed account was 1234578. Silence, and then anger made my hands move towards the telephone and dial her number and tell her. “Hello Mrs. Jane Doe, you need to look at your statement there and compare my check and the 3rd segment of the statement reflecting the closed account. You will see that you owe me an apology, and the return of the wrongful charges you have made to me. Otherwise, I will have to in my right use the right resources to resolve this issue.

Today I couldn’t wait so I called her bank and spoke to the manager and the regional rep and asked them to either do a 3 way call explaining to her that it was their mistake and I wanted a letter from the bank with an explanation of the mistake. Well, the bank called her, Do you think she has had the courtesy to call me and apologize? No. Instead, I got a text “I prefer not to have anymore communication.” I think I will give her the benefit of the doubt of 2 days. After that I think I may make a bigger stir about things since it is a real business and it was their mistake and their problem, and they pretty much stole from me, and who knows who they told. I don’t want to mention their childcare name since I don’t know if it’s unlawful, plus I am expecting to hear from them. Maybe there is a purple unicorn in there somewhere. ūüėÄ

You know, I am glad that even though my economy isn’t doing that well as them, that I can still make sure I pay all my bills, and not bounce any checks. Yet, I do not feel satisfied. Is it really the principle? I don’t know, but my truth ego wants my $50 bucks back, biznatch! LOL!

Has this happened to you? Comments, council and advice is open.

Reference: “heart deposits” from His needs Her needs. Good book. Also see His needs Her needs for Parents.


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Some people love children and don’t have them. Some people have children and don’t like the work that comes with it. I have to say it’s the hardest job that I enjoy, but the surprises I don’t like. The surprises, are the part we aren’t ready¬†for. This morning I woke up to my cute 3 yearold, who had a smile, a cuddle and butterscotch pudding breath. Hmm… We found out he raided the refrigerator and ate as many butterscotch pudding cups as he could. Man was Daddy upset they were his snacks.

Fridge RAID 2010: Only the beginning. In time-out eating his Raisin bread dipped in Yogurt.

It’s so funny how some daddy’s¬†don’t think something is a “big deal”¬†unless it’s involved with something of theirs. So he yells “That’s IT we need a new LOCK!” He-llOOOOoo, that’s what I’ve been sayin’. So, we’re on the hunt for a better refrigerator¬†lock, because the last one we had on the fridge¬†the little guy figured it out last year in a week. NO exaggeration. I never thought I had to say this, but “I need to LOCK my fridge with a¬†really good lock”. At least, until he understands, why I have bananas,¬†and apples on the counter.

Life Lesson

If there is anything that children can teach us, it is to NEVER GIVE UP. Babies learn to crawl, to stand, to hold on, and start walking with one step, and then two steps, and¬†so on. It’s all cute, when they are small and lumpy, at least until¬†they are sprinting with sharp object. ANYWAY, parenting, work, exercise, new eating habits, starting something new, learning something that is¬†NEW to YOU is all the same, try, and¬†try again. Then practice and practice again. It’ll dawn on you how great you’re doing when you realize you are enjoying it. Whatever “it” is.

Let me know if you have fridge diving toddler. What was your solution?

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What a crazy line!?! I mean the Sun is not small at all. But neither is your idea, your talent, or You. Have you had a feeling you are supposed to do something great in your life? That’s because you do.¬†Is there something that you do as a hobby that you have been told you are fantastic at it?¬†I am certain you have. ¬†Have you ever wanted to have a business of your own, be the GO TO person in your family or at work?¬†Even if it was a glimpse of a thought, you did. Are you¬†writing and¬†you are experiencing writers block ?¬†It happens to the best of us. Well, I am here to say that you CAN DO IT. And you can do it by finding that speck that propels you.

If it wasn’t for the hottest days of the year and the brightest light that makes you wear a cap and sunglasses, you wouldn’t have known the Sun was there the whole time. The difference with other planets, such as Mars and Venus is that we need a telescope to see them, since they are only a speck in the sky at our distance, and they are only seen at night.¬†Get this, we are a speck in the Galaxy we are in! We can practically go unoticed in our galaxy.¬†Good thing, ¬†you don’t have to go unnoticed or feel unnoticed in life.¬†¬†


By definition a speck ¬†is “something appearing small by comparison or by reason of distance: Example “By then the town was just a speck.”

 Why a speck?

To the naked eye a speck is something small. At times microscopic or telescopic that in the right light or lens can be scene clearer and at times make a huge difference in perception. Your speck can be in your mind, or in your hands, and what you do. Start off by getting back in the groove, re-assert yourself, your achievements and accomplishments.

The idea of getting in the groove is to practice gaining momentum. Doesn’t that sound like brainstorming?¬†Often¬†getting in the groove, brainstorming will help you see another unexpected speck. Seeing things from a different perspective helps a lot. Sort of, when you are looking under a bed for a shoe and you see in the right light a little glimpse of glitter or reflecting item, and you now have an interest in what it is, so you reach for it. To me, that is very much like discovering the speck. You had it all this time, you just needed to see it in a better light and you take an interest in it.¬†Moreover, you are in a different place in your life, which is a new perpective, you may allow yourself to be more open for a difference and that’s a whole other article¬†by itself. ¬†ūüôā¬†

So get started now. Write things down. Like what? You may ask. Well I have a few ideas:

  1. Journal everyday. Write down your thoughts goals dreams. Your accomplishments and the stories behind them. Make a list of your accomplishments. Don’t downplay your accomplishments.
  2. READ. You relax your mind reading and generate new thoughts from reading. And you never stop learning.The books you read become a good conversational piece at the right time.
  3. Join a Club related to your self-discovery. Surprise yourself, it may be fun, you learn from others and it’s great networking.
  4. Make a bucket list.¬†And say “yes” to new experiences. Like ¬†hobbies, clubs you want to check out,¬†events, marathons or walkathons and volunteer work you would like to do. Then cross them off when you do them. I promise, you will learn through these experiences.
  5. Have a Visual of your ideas and wants in life. Never loose site of your goal.  Put up a poster and make a collage of cool things you might want to have.  Have cutouts or drawings of your ideas.
  6. Do the things you don’t want to do, that you have to do.¬† Often in the process of completing tasks that were in the back burner, you not only feel the sense of accomplishment, but your brain¬†is working at a different pace and you¬†get¬†fresh ideas. ¬†¬†
  7. And document it. Needless to say, if someone else has a similar idea, the fact that you have documented will be your best point of defense, and a reminder of how wonderful you really are. ūüôā

Next, share your stories of success. This will inspire you over and again. Not to mention, you will be noticed, your speck is now a Sun. 

The article that drove me

What drove me to write this article today was a good article by Alexandra Levit 9 Ways To Be a Powerful Woman. This article featured some fantastic points, but what caught my interest was Catherine Kaputa the founder of SelfBrand LLC, a personal branding strategist. What a brilliant person!

Catherine, like many of us was told “Work hard and that’s how you will move up in the world. It’s not what they say about you that is important.” And that’s when she had her “Aha” moment. She recognized that it wasn’t true, it is Hard work + Selfbranding = Success. It’s important to understand that if you don’t brand yourself, someone else will and it won’t be what you wish it was. And in the business world it is the “other people” that hire you, decide promote you, decide to include you as a team so it does matter what other people think. Perceptions in the market place of you¬†are very important.¬† Therefore you need to brand yourself on a positive perceptions, so you can maximize who you are.

I thought “WOW, maximize who you are!” That doesn’t mean exagerate or brag¬†who you are.¬†It means to represent at the highest possible estimate, to make the greatest or fullest use of who you are! Leverage your aptitude. We need to NOT be afraid of speaking of ourselves in a positive way. Differentiate yourself, so you get noticed.

Catherines 3 Principles of SelfBrand

  1. Be Different.
  2. It’s what you do to the minds of others. It’s about perceptions.
  3. Think Outside – In. The reaction in the market place and what I have to do to get that reaction.

Buck up girls and boys! Analyze, and learn who you really are and what you want to do. Discover the speck and magnify YOU.

To learn more about Catherine Kaputa and her company go to: http://www.selfbrand.com/

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